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Thursday, December 19, 2019

Book Review: Daughters Of The Brothel by Deepak Yadav | Reality of Prostitution in India

Book Review

Daughters Of The Brothel: Stories from Delhi's red light district by Deepak Yadav


Book Review: Daughters Of The Brothel by Deepak Yadav | Reality of Prostitution in India | Dhiraj Sindhi
Daughters Of The Brothel by Deepak Yadav

Author: Deepak Yadav

ISBN: 978-8194202196

Genre: Non-Fiction

Length: 198 Pages

Publisher:  Bigfoot Publications (8 October 2019)

My Ratings: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

Order your copy right now: https://amzn.to/38U5xRh

About the author: 

Deepak Yadav is an author and entrepreneur based in Delhi. He is a product of Birla School, Pilani and is currently pursuing his graduation in law from Banaras Hindu University.

Deepak Yadav was attracted towards writing since high school and has won three short story contests organized by Scholastic and Writer’s Digest. His debut novel, 'Walking with you' was published in 2013 when he was seventeen under the banner of Diamond books. The book was a take on inter-religion marriages in modern India which later became a sleeper hit among the youth.

Deepak Yadav believes in social work and started working with renowned NGOs like Udaan foundation and Lions club International soon after his schooling. Currently, he works with ‘Gudiya,’ a leading NGO engaged in preventing human trafficking and slavery for creating awareness in the masses.

Apart from his social and empathetic character, Deepak Yadav identifies himself an introvert, coffee freak, and sometimes an experimental cook.

Book Review: Daughters Of The Brothel by Deepak Yadav | Reality of Prostitution in India | Dhiraj Sindhi
Deepak Yadav, Founder of Bigfoot Publications

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REVIEW

Daughters of the Brothel by Deepak Yadav is a non-fiction book which unveils the lives trapped in an inexorable web of G.B. Road. The book starts and ends with prologue and epilogue. There are total of seven chapters where each chapter represents the voice of a sex worker, however the first chapter narrates eunuch’s story of struggle; meanwhile author has put open the facts and figures of subaltern communities of India while some authorities may like to remain silent about this.

I will be addressing the necessary points that have to be conveyed by this review, in chronological order of sex workers’ lives. So the author Deepak Yadav spent a considerable amount of time in G.B. Road, the famous red-light district in New Delhi during his stint with an NGO. That’s how he came to know all the sex workers of one particular brothel. Brothel no. 56.

Starting with the question, how these sex workers ended up as who they are?

They’re not from one particular state or region, in fact, they belong to very different backgrounds and cultures. But there is one thing in common, according to governmental survey under PITA (Prevention of Immoral Trafficking Act or ITPA) 1.2 million sex workers in the country are minors. The ones I will be talking about are from Himachal Pradesh, Haryana, Karnataka, Rajasthan, and Uttar Pradesh. Although, there is one particular place from where girls and women are trafficked in a significant amount and are forced into the Indian sex trade where prostitution is legal. It is estimated that between 12,000 to 15,000 girls between ages 6 to 16 are trafficked each year from Nepal to India. These figures are from one review done by Yvonne Rafferty for promising prevention policies under the American Journal of Orthopsychiatry (2013).

That was just about geography. Mostly the reason behind their being sex worker was money. Either they were sold by their guardians for money or they had to choose this unwillingly because they believed that there are no other means by which they could earn sufficient to feed their families, children and parents. In both, former and latter cases, most of them were first raped by their guardians themselves. The exception is, some of them are traditionally believed prostitutes, although as 80% of the total prostitutes they also entered this flesh trade unwillingly. Sex work has been the primary means of community income in lower caste communities like Nats, Kanjars, Bedia and Sanshis. In the south, the practice of Devadasi earns girl’s family a regular income so they’re compelled to take up prostitution as a profession.

What happens after they reach these brothels?

Many of sex workers were trafficked and then sold to these brothels and some just escape one hell and enter another. At this place, pimps bring them to a particular brothel and then these girls/women have to live in an assigned room under the instructions of Kothamalik, generally who owns the brothel. And chances are very few of escaping this place once reached, be it for any reason. Prostitutes get a place to live, two square meals and some money to save for their family (yes as any of us they have families too), but if you’re thinking that’s good enough then you’re wrong. Their agonies aren’t put at rest at all, they get abused daily; either by customers or Kothamaliks or pimps; Kothamaliks can be very cruel and it is believed very rare to find a good one.

It was not an easy task talking to these sex workers, they hardly talked to outsiders because they don’t trust anyone. Deepak Yadav got to know these few sex workers who were ready to narrate their stories. When asked about police, their answer was ‘Policemen are worst class of people.’ Here is why they believe so, every day minor girls are trafficked under their noses but they don’t care as long as they get their monthly share from brothels; they even come to brothels at any time and satisfy their sexual urge without a penny. Even if they frequently raid (highly abusive and violent in nature) red light areas under the pretext of rescuing minors, the most widespread human rights abuse emerges from the rescue and rehabilitation provisions of ITPA. Meanwhile, there is no assurance of their lives getting any better because of the criminalization, stigma and social exclusion. People don’t treat them as humans, especially customers see them as dead flesh and an opportunity to extract as much pleasure they possibly can and they do.

Customers impose themselves without protection while intercourse which leads to frequent pregnancies and sometimes AIDS. Here comes an important point this book includes. Daughters of the brothel. “It’s true that a woman’s life is incomplete without being a mother. Motherhood is fulfilling experience for most women.” And sex workers are no exceptions, they bear child in spite of the identity of children’s father. They also dream of freedom which their children can attain; they want to educate their daughters and make promise of never forcing their daughters into this sex trade.
Fatima, who is one of that rare good Kothamalik having two sons and a daughter. She wishes to get free from this hell and want them to go to good private school because finally her sons informed her about getting bullied in their previous school.

We live in a society where people will oppose child trafficking, sex trafficking and will never fail to register their anger against rape on social media, but will do little to nothing for changing their mentality or of their relatives, parents and friends. At the other hand there are people who encourage such acts by putting content on internet like ‘How to enjoy Nepali at GB Road.’ However, there can be a list of instructions because pickpocketing and loots (mostly by pimps) are reported every other day but one cannot do anything about this because they’ll be questioned.

Not to forget the first chapter about the transgender community, where the author has depicted the miseries of a eunuch. How castration is performed, it is not mandatory though. The same social exclusion they have to face every single day. This oppression needs to stop. The author also talks about ancient history and put forward many facts. In fact, Deepak Yadav has done a very commendable job at research and coming up with facts and figures, inserting them whenever needed.


Throughout the book, there were many instances where I could see the fundamental causes of this sex trade especially child trafficking. The rural communities where they have no access to most of the resources. Where they treat their daughters as a liability and because of these communities’ economic conditions, the men turn them into assets. There we need change. The girls/women must be provided access to education and skills development programmes can help a lot. It is very necessary to convince these communities and specifically men (for they believe they are not meant to do anything except pimping and gambling) that there are many other ways to earn. “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.”

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Sunday, September 1, 2019

Dear People, with Love and Care, Your Doctors (Heartfelt stories about doctor-patient relationship)

Book Review

Dear People, with Love and Care, Your Doctors by Debraj Shome & Aparna Govil Bhasker


Book Review: Dear People, with Love and Care, Your Doctors by Debraj Shome & Aparna Govil Bhasker | Dhiraj Sindhi
Dear People, with Love and Care, Your Doctors by Dr. Debraj Shomee & Dr. Aparna Govil Bhasker

Author: Dr. Aparna Govil Bhasker and Dr. Debraj Shome

ISBN: 978-9387146945 

Genre: Personal development (Non-Fiction)

Length: 294 Pages

Publisher:  Bloomsbury India (10th August 2019)

My Ratings: 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

Order your copy right now: https://amzn.to/2zIrra2

About the author:

Dr. Debraj Shome is a surgeon, specialising in facial plastic surgery and facial cosmetic surgery. He is the co-founder and director at The Esthetic Clinics, which has multiple centres across India. Known for his breakthrough innovations in facial plastic surgery, Dr. Shome has received many awards. He has more than 55 research papers written in top peer-reviewed international publications along with a US patent to his credit for inventing the QR 678 hair growth formulation. He was the first recipient from Asia and the youngest globally to be awarded the prestigious Davies Foundation Grant Award by the Royal College of Surgeons, Glasgow, in 2010. Besides clinical work, Dr. Shome is the Director of the Debabrata Auro Foundation.

Book Review: Dear People, with Love and Care, Your Doctors by Debraj Shome & Aparna Govil Bhasker | Dhiraj Sindhi
Dr. Debraj Shome


Dr. Aparna Govil Bhasker is a bariatric and laparoscopic general surgeon and practices in the city of Mumbai. She is associated with Global, Currae, Namaha, Suchak and Apollo group of hospitals. She has multiple publications and numerous book chapters to her credit. She is the managing committee member of several surgical societies and has a keen interest in clinical research. She is the co-founder of Debabrata Auro Foundation.

Book Review: Dear People, with Love and Care, Your Doctors by Debraj Shome & Aparna Govil Bhasker | Dhiraj Sindhi
Dr. Aparna Govil Bhasker

REVIEW

Structure of the book:

The best thing about the book is that His Holiness, the Dalai Lama has blessed the book with the foreword. He says “The treatment of an ailment doesn’t only depend on the medical expertise of a doctor; his or her warm-heartedness, care and concern for a patient is essential for the treatment to be effective.” This foreword presents the very need for writing this book and retain faith in the beautiful doctor-patient relationship. There is another foreword by Indian Medical Association.

This is an attempt by veterans and doctors with at least 30 years of experience in their respective fields to re-strengthen the doctor-patient relationship which was the pure bond, unaltered by the technological interference a few decades ago.

At the end of the book, there is a manifesto of doctor and patient rights which currently features on the website of the Ministry of Health and Family Welfare. And afterword by Dr. Rajas Deshpande and Dr. Jananee Murlidharan.

The chapters are structured to provide more information about the subject and the authors who have contributed to this book. The chapter starts with a thought or a quote by the doctor who narrates his or her experiences in a particular chapter. The editor Dr. Aparna Govil Bhasker has added illustrations also to make it easy to understand the diseases when needed. The later part of the chapters contain respective doctor’s biography and ‘Did you know?’ part to enlighten readers with facts on the subject discussed in the chapter.

Doctors and patients have narrated various cases which they consider created perpetual memories to remember for the entire lifetime. I would like to pinpoint each big takeaway that I have learned throughout this book.

✔ The first and most important thing to assimilate: Doctors are not God. They are humans like us.


✔ While the book discusses successful and heart-warming cases, there are cases of failures as well which shows that a successful outcome is sometimes beyond their control.

✔ The book talks about the current scenario of the medical colleges of India. The difference between private and government medical colleges, and how that affects medical aspirants and the profession at large.

✔ It is equally important for patients to take responsibility of their health.

✔ Doctors may not show emotions but, they also suffer from depression and ‘burn out’ because of their taxing profession. The research shows that 30% of resident doctors suffer from depression and 17% of them contemplates suicide. That means we have to care about them also.

✔ While there are distasteful elements in every profession, medicine is not an exception, but we cannot blame whole profession because of that.

✔ There are two types of patients: Brave patients and Rouge patients. While the brave patients establish a warm doctor-patient relationship and have tremendous faith in their doctors, the rouge patients exploit doctor for their condition. In India, small politically supported groups exploits doctors and vandalise hospitals in order to waive off steep bills of surgeries and organ-transplant.

✔ Doctors also got the responsibility of their families and there would be so many instances when they have to make critical decisions in and out of their profession.

✔ There are a lot of diseases this book discusses, it will increase your medical vocabulary and would give much knowledge.

✔ In this technological era, where we are provided easy access to information, the doctor-patient relationship is put to test.

✔ The book also talks about the challenging situations, doctors and patients faces because of poor administration by the government. It demands change.

✔ How the money factor affects the purest relation of doctor-patient. Though the book showcases many acts of kindness by doctors.

✔ It spread awareness about the donation of brain-dead person’s organs for transplant.

✔ There’s no denying that the doctor meets the patient in their most challenging and devastating conditions. Which demands a bond of compassion, concern and care. Patients will need to be positive and have 100% faith in their doctors. And that altogether can fight the disease.


Well, these were the few points I could remember as of now, but there is a lot more to know about the doctor-patient relationship from the book. I would recommend everyone to read this book.

 Happy Reading!

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Sunday, July 28, 2019

Book Review: Shhh! Don't Talk About Mental Health by Arjun Gupta

Book Review

Shhh! Don't Talk About Mental Health by Arjun Gupta


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Shhh! Don't Talk About Mental Health by Arjun Gupta


Author: Arjun Gupta

ISBN: 978-1645469711

Genre: Psychology (Non-Fiction)

Length: 203 Pages

Publisher:  (June 28th, 2019)

My Ratings: 5/5

Order your copy right now: https://amzn.to/2yccA6L

About the author:

Arjun Gupta is a mental health activist. He has been raising mental health awareness through his blog and YouTube channel for two years, after having battled severe clinical depression between 2015 and 2017. Hailing from Hisar in Haryana, Arjun is currently pursuing an undergraduate degree in Applied Psychology from Delhi University. Supported by the love of his family and admirers, Arjun works to make the world a better place. A world that is sensitive to those battling their own mind.

Arjun Gupta


Follow him on Instagram: @_knightofsteel
Twitter Handle: @_knightofsteel
His Website: https://knightofsteel.com/


REVIEW

Shhh! Don’t Talk About Mental Health is an initiative by author Arjun Gupta for not just spreading Mental Health awareness but with the context of the current situation of Mental Health/Mental Illness/Psychology subject in India. The author also used Yashasvi’s (his) case as an example to make the explanation easy to understand. If you do not belong to the psychological background then this book would help you with an introduction to Mental Health and all the related aspects of it through stories, researches, facts and statistics. The book will answer all your doubts and questions about depression, mental illnesses and collectively about mental health.

The structure of the book is divided into six sections to make the reader understand from history of psychology to the modern-day need of forming a community to stand with those who are suffering from mental illnesses and make the world a better place.


SECTION I

This first section is dedicated to the history of Psychology and that how it began across the various parts of the world. How Mental Illnesses came to the larger picture and how those patients were treated back in time until the 17th century. There were few revolutionary scientists and activists who made remarkable changes in the subject of psychology.


SECTION II

This section helps you understand what exactly Mental Health is, i.e. the definition of Mental Health. The author has described all the important aspects of the current official definition given by WHO. And also what significant changes need to be done according to the current time.


SECTION III

In this section, the author Arjun Gupta has provided information about identification of the mental illnesses and stages that follows about curing it.


SECTION IV

In this section, the Author talks about why Mental Health awareness is as necessary as it was for AIDS and HIV. There are many people who talk about Mental Health for just the sake of it and inserting words ‘Mental Health’ everywhere is going to make no difference. So, as the author says informed discussions about mental health on a meaningful platform is also key apart from using modern treatments to minimize risks of mental illnesses.


SECTION V

This section was about stigma! The obstacle that stands in the way of mental healthcare that exists globally─ Stigma. How people with mental illness are treated as their sole identity is their illness. How movies, series and media develop stereotypes about mental disorders as patient being just schizophrenic or unstable or violent. Also, there are people who spread misinformation that suffering from mental illnesses is related to being rich or poor. Arjun Gupta tries his best to break such stereotypes.


SECTION VI

In this last section, author discusses the same with Indian context to define problems and proposes many solutions that can help with mental health awareness. Author Arjun Gupta concludes with the story of Yashasvi and how he revived himself after two years of clinical depression.



When I picked this book, I knew it will help me to a certain extent to understand Mental Health. And now after finishing this, I am thankful to the author for I really needed this. As the author said we can make this world a better place that is sensitive to those battling their own minds. Where there is no shame in asking for help. This is the time to know what mental health is and better not led by misinformation in this era of social media. The least we can do as a responsible community is, stand with the patients of mental disorders and treat them with compassion and talk about it.

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