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Tuesday, October 1, 2024

Sakina's Kiss by Vivek Shanbhag | Translated from the Kannada by Srinath Perur

   

Sakina's Kiss by Vivek Shanbhag

Translated from the Kannada by Srinath Perur

Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi


Sakina's Kiss by Vivek Shanbhag Translated from the Kannada by Srinath Perur Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi | Top Indian Book Blogger Middle-Class India
Sakina's Kiss by Vivek Shanbhag | Translated from the Kannada by Srinath Perur


Author: Vivek Shanbhag

Translator: Srinath Perur

ISBN: 978-0670098835

Genre: Literary Fiction

Length: 194 Pages

Publication Date: 9th October 2023

PublisherVINTAGE (An Imprint of Penguin Random House India)

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About the Author: Vivek Shanbhag (Author) VIVEK SHANBHAG is a Kannada author, editor and playwright. He founded the pioneering literary journal Desha Kaala, editing it for seven years. His works include the widely translated Ghachar Ghochar. Although his stories are regularly translated and anthologised, Sakina’s Kiss is only his second complete work to be translated into the English. He is a Visiting Professor of Creative Writing at the Ashoka University. He is an engineer by training and lives in Bangalore.

Sakina's Kiss by Vivek Shanbhag Translated from the Kannada by Srinath Perur Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi | Top Indian Book Blogger Middle-Class India
Vivek Shanbhag



About the Translator: Srinath Perur (Translator) SRINATH PERUR writes about science, travel and books among other things and translates from Kannada to English. He is the author of the travelogue If It's Monday It Must Be Madurai and the translator of This Life at Play and Ghachar Ghochar.

Sakina's Kiss by Vivek Shanbhag Translated from the Kannada by Srinath Perur Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi | Top Indian Book Blogger Middle-Class India
Srinath Perur (Courtesy: Hindustan Times)


DisclaimerThis review is only intended to initiate discussions. The opinions and views presented in this article are my own and do not reflect anything about the book's author. 



REVIEW

Vivek Shanbhag’s Sakina’s Kiss—translated with graceful precision by Srinath Perur—masterfully sketches a portrait of Venky, a man caught between the comforts of his patriarchal conditioning and his ideological certainties falling flat slowly. Through Venky, Shanbhag explores a multitude of societal themes, from patriarchal family dynamics to the inescapable influence of politics, all without the novel feeling heavy-handed.

Almost instantly, we are introduced to Venky’s characteristic indecision and passive approach to life. A man steeped in self-improvement books and TV news debates, Venky’s thoughts on women, relationships, and family are shaped more by societal influence than by personal understanding. His relationship with his wife, Viji, has become one defined by unspoken tensions. The irony of Venky’s character is central to the novel. He is, in many ways, a man bound by his own contradictory beliefs.

But what stands out most in Sakina’s Kiss is the way Shanbhag explores larger socio-political undercurrents through the lens of Venky’s middle-class existence. Shanbhag weaves in topics like rural land grabs, farmer peasantry, and the rise of Naxalism, seen through the figure of Venky’s uncle, Ramana, who becomes radicalized. Venky, on the other hand, is caught in a tug-of-war between the pressures of fatherhood and the weight of his own insignificance in a rapidly modernizing world.

His thoughts about his daughter’s budding independence and rebellious streak are shaped more by his fears than any genuine understanding of Rekha’s needs. At its core, Sakina’s Kiss delves into Venky’s journey of confronting—and often suppressing—his own vulnerability. His life, shaped by the male-dominated social structures of his upbringing, leaves him awkwardly negotiating his encounters with people with higher or equal authority and the weight of his role as a father. In the novel’s climax, Venky is forced to reckon with this fragility when a break-in at their home occurs—a metaphorical and literal invasion that throws his carefully managed life into disarray.

The brilliance of Shanbhag’s storytelling lies in its restraint. There are no grand resolutions, only the slow unravelling of Venky’s beliefs and the deeply personal yet highly political choices his family faces. This open-endedness mirrors the reality of living in a world where politics, personal relationships, and identity are constantly in flux.

Sakina’s Kiss offers no easy answers, but it poses necessary questions about modern India’s grappling with its past and future. Shanbhag’s ability to tackle multiple themes—from rural struggles and urban anxieties to generational conflicts—without losing the novel’s intimate tone is what makes it a deeply compelling, nuanced read.

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Lovelorn : A compilation of heartache and heartbreaksThe WallHomeless: Growing Up Lesbian and Dyslexic in IndiaWhy Am I Like This?: A Journey into Psychological AstrologyTales of Hazaribagh: An Intimate Exploration of Chhotanagpur PlateauThe Cat Who Saved Books
In the Company of StrangersRippling waters of SolitudeGet Out: The Gay Man's Guide to Coming and Going Out!Of Marriages and MadnessDopehriThe Cat and the Cow
The Train to TanjoreRohzinThe Blue Book: A Writer's JournalMurder in the Bylanes: Life and Death in a Divided CityDear Mom: Finding Hope, Happiness and HerThe Ascendance of Evil
A Little Lifesemicolon: a novel


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I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver | Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi

   

I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver

Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi


I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi | Top Indian Book Blogger Gender Identity, Queer Romance, Homosexuality, America
I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver


Authors: Mason Deaver

ISBN: 978-1035026227

Genre: Contemporary Fiction

Length: 336 Pages

Publication Date: 13th April 2023

PublisherMacmillan Children's Books

Cover IllustrationSarah Maxwell

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About the Author: Born and raised in a small town in North Carolina, Mason Deaver is an award-nominated, bestselling author and designer living in Charlotte. Their debut novel, I Wish You All the Best, was named a Junior Library Guild Selection and an NPR Concierge Book. Besides writing, they're an active fan of horror movies and video games. You can find them online at masondeaverwrites.com

I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi | Top Indian Book Blogger Gender Identity, Queer Romance, Homosexuality, America
Mason Deaver


Instagram: @mason_deaver


DisclaimerThis review is only intended to initiate discussions. The opinions and views presented in this article are my own and do not reflect anything about the book's author. 



REVIEW

I started reading this book in a café, and I couldn't put it down. The first few chapters were intense, narrating some of the most fearful yet liberating moments in the lives of many queer people. Benjamin De Backer comes out as nonbinary and is immediately kicked out of their home. Their estranged sister, Hannah, who hadn't spoken to the family for a decade after her own fallout with their parents, steps in to rescue them. She offers Ben a refuge at her home, where she lives with her husband, a teacher. She gets Ben into therapy and enrols them in her husband’s school mid-term.

From there, the book smoothly takes you through the various aspects of Ben’s new life in Raleigh. The inner struggle of not conforming to the gender binary, attending therapy, battling anxiety and depression—all while managing school and making new friends—feels very real. Making new friends, in fact, becomes a lifeline for Ben. A sweet, almost too-cute love story begins to blossom. The book features some vivid, powerful scenes that are unforgettable, and surprisingly, none of them are romantic. One of my favourite moments is a conversation between Ben and Hannah, where she convinces Ben to get out of bed and face the day. That scene, for me, held more power than any therapy session—pure wisdom. Sure, there are a few cliché tropes, like attending a party and online confidant, reminiscent of the dynamic between Victor and Simon in the Simonverse.

I went into this book expecting to learn something fresh about the nonbinary experience, perhaps something I hadn’t encountered before. However, early on, I realized it wasn't going to offer anything radically unique within the well-trodden American high school narrative. The family conflict and romance make for a strong premise, but the writing feels surface-level, often coming across as a customized version of an all-too-familiar setting with new accessories.

That said, I still enjoyed reading it! I think there’s a distinction between a truly great book and one you simply like reading. This one definitely gave me those butterfly-in-the-stomach moments. It also made me reflect on why some people, especially in Eastern cultures—including Bollywood icons—tend to resist labels when it comes to sexuality and gender identity. This book is an example of how labels, at times, can reduce the nonbinary experience to just pronouns. However, it still validates the complex emotions and struggles that come with gender dysphoria, while delivering much-needed optimism. It's a cosy, safe corner for those searching for comfort and reassurance.


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Dhiraj's Bookshelf

Lovelorn : A compilation of heartache and heartbreaksThe WallHomeless: Growing Up Lesbian and Dyslexic in IndiaWhy Am I Like This?: A Journey into Psychological AstrologyTales of Hazaribagh: An Intimate Exploration of Chhotanagpur PlateauThe Cat Who Saved Books
In the Company of StrangersRippling waters of SolitudeGet Out: The Gay Man's Guide to Coming and Going Out!Of Marriages and MadnessDopehriThe Cat and the Cow
The Train to TanjoreRohzinThe Blue Book: A Writer's JournalMurder in the Bylanes: Life and Death in a Divided CityDear Mom: Finding Hope, Happiness and HerThe Ascendance of Evil
A Little Lifesemicolon: a novel


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Wednesday, September 11, 2024

The Parents I Met by Mansi Zaveri | Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi

  

The Parents I Met by Mansi Zaveri

Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi



The Parents I Met by Mansi Zaveri Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi | Top 10 Indian Book Blogger Parenting, Interviews with Parents of Successful People
The Parents I Met by Mansi Zaveri


Authors: Mansi Zaveri

ISBN: 978-0143459743

Genre: Non-Fiction | Parenting

Length: 296 Pages

Publication Date: 27th November 2023

PublisherEbury Press by Penguin Random House India

Cover Designer: Sparsh Raj Singh | LinkedIn@sparsh-raj-singh-42ab647

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About the Author: Mansi Zaveri is the founder and CEO of India’s most trusted discovery platform for parenting and childcare, Kidsstoppress.com, which boasts a digital reach of 20 million people per month. She was also featured in Exchange4Media's Content 40 Under 40 list in 2020. Based in Mumbai, this mom of two took no time in combining her passion for the digital medium and her parenting journey to become an entrepreneur, leaving behind her corporate life to empower parents to make informed choices.

The Parents I Met by Mansi Zaveri Book Review by Dhiraj Sindhi | Top 10 Indian Book Blogger Parenting, Interviews with Parents of Successful People
Mansi Zaveri


Instagram: @mansi.zaveri


DisclaimerThis review is only intended to initiate discussions. The opinions and views presented in this article are my own and do not reflect anything about the book's author. 



REVIEW

Mansi Zaveri’s The Parents I Met takes readers through the personal stories and parenting strategies behind some of India’s successful and influential individuals. Zaveri’s access to this cross-section of high achievers offers valuable insights into the emotional and psychological principles that guide effective parenting, providing readers with a wealth of anecdotes and lessons that are undeniably helpful for many parents looking to better understand the role they play in their children’s success. However, while the book has merit, it falls short in several areas, particularly when it comes to addressing broader cultural, social, familial, and class-related complexities.

At its core, the book excels in offering practical wisdom gleaned from parents who emphasize nurturing curiosity, allowing children to pursue their passions, and fostering a sense of independence. The anecdotes are compelling in their specificity, shedding light on how parents can encourage children to take calculated risks and navigate non-traditional paths or even traditional paths set by the parents themselves. However, despite these useful lessons, the book often leans into an idealized version of parenting, one that portrays family life as relatively harmonious and conflict-free. Parents in Zaveri’s interviews seem to always listen, support and eventually agree with their children’s unconventional choices. This presents an overly sanitized portrayal of the parent-child dynamic, one that lacks the messiness, friction, and negotiation that typically characterizes ordinary family relationships.

Zaveri’s line of questioning often results in repetitive and shallow insights. Time and again, the same themes emerge: give your children freedom within boundaries, let them make their own decisions, and allow them to follow their passions. While these are certainly important points, they are hardly groundbreaking. Beyond material wealth, the book also misses an opportunity to explore and acknowledge the social capital that is instrumental in these success stories. The parents of these successful individuals may not always be privileged, but they often have access to a broader network of intellectual or cultural resources, whether through education, social standing, or simply an enlightened approach to parenting that might be difficult to replicate in more constrained circumstances.

While it's undeniable that parenting and upbringing shape foundational aspects of a child's development, attributing success to parental influence oversimplifies a far more complex equation. The achievements of these individuals may reflect a confluence of personal resilience, broader societal factors, and opportunities beyond the scope of even the most conscientious parenting. Many individuals achieve greatness despite difficult or broken family dynamics. There are countless stories of people who have rebelled against parental expectations, overcome family trauma, or thrived in environments where emotional support was absent. These individuals often develop resilience, independence, and determination precisely because of the challenges they face, not in spite of them. The lack of such diversity suggests a somewhat narrow definition of what constitutes true accomplishment. It overlooks the myriad ways in which success can manifest and the varied circumstances from which people rise to prominence.

The concept of Mansi Zaveri’s book, while valuable in its exploration of parenting strategies behind successful individuals, is fundamentally flawed in its scope and representation. It excludes the realities of more diverse family backgrounds, particularly those from underprivileged, conflict-ridden, or non-traditional households. Expecting parents—especially parents outside the scope of these examples—to glean actionable insights from these idealized examples would be to assume that they reflect the full spectrum of parenting experiences. 

Mansi Zaveri, the dynamic founder of Kidsstoppress, is undoubtedly a force to be reckoned with in the digital parenting space. Her keen eye for trends and deep understanding of parental needs have made her platform a go-to resource for many Indian parents. Yet, while her book deeply resonates with a specific audience, the broader applicability of it sometimes feels limited, leaving certain parenting experiences untapped.


Happy Reading!


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Dhiraj's Bookshelf

Lovelorn : A compilation of heartache and heartbreaksThe WallHomeless: Growing Up Lesbian and Dyslexic in IndiaWhy Am I Like This?: A Journey into Psychological AstrologyTales of Hazaribagh: An Intimate Exploration of Chhotanagpur PlateauThe Cat Who Saved Books
In the Company of StrangersRippling waters of SolitudeGet Out: The Gay Man's Guide to Coming and Going Out!Of Marriages and MadnessDopehriThe Cat and the Cow
The Train to TanjoreRohzinThe Blue Book: A Writer's JournalMurder in the Bylanes: Life and Death in a Divided CityDear Mom: Finding Hope, Happiness and HerThe Ascendance of Evil
A Little Lifesemicolon: a novel


Dhiraj Sindhi's favorite books »




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